I often interpreted his parenthood as something the universe had dumped on his shoulder and if society had directed his life towards me. He has taught me the most crucial lesson- that life is unforgiving. He has spoiled me while imparting the practical realities of life.
The traditional gender paradigm of the husband footing all expenditures is repressive to males as well. A man should be able to rely on his wife too for financial support. The condition being, the wife is to perform her “wifely duties” with utmost obedience and loyalty. This ceremony provides some social and financial stability to a girl who is completely reliant on her husband. How is this relevant to women who are financially stable and make equal contributions to the family budget?
The transition from Single-Bed to the Double-Bed marks the ceremonies start of numerous life-altering events. It all starts with the pristinely decorated Double-Bed on the wedding night, where your abilities to hump the newly-married wife, gets applauded by the society outside the room.
So we finally decided to feed our son to the Great Indian Schooling System. Because, that’s how we secure his distant future as a Political Leader, Doctor, Engineer, Banker or Teacher – Chronologically in the order of financial prosperity and social recognition. So aligning with the conventions, we ceremoniously took uncountable pictures of him in his school dress, school bag, water bottle, et all, on the first session day. Next, we also posted them on Facebook and received 100+ Likes from many people I have never known personally. It was one of those special Life-Moments.
Workplace can be a very intimidating space for women whether or not it’s male-dominated. Some cheeky comments with sexist undertones can always catch you off-guard. Some valiant men will overplay their gentleman role putting you in an unwanted damsel in distress scenario.